Bold, Humble, & Fully Designed

Becoming a Woman of God: Bold, Humble, and Fully Designed

What does it really look like to be a woman of God?

It’s a question I’ve asked in the quiet of my own heart and in the tension of conversations in church hallways. The world has a loud opinion about womanhood, and even within the church, there’s often confusion, contradiction, and deep tension—especially around leadership and calling.

Let’s be real: I’ve been in rooms filled with godly men who genuinely love the Lord—yet in those same spaces, women weren’t given room to share their hearts or walk fully in the ministries God had clearly called them to. I’ve been advised to “stay quiet” in my role. I’ve preached with conviction, knowing that some wouldn’t be able to receive it—not because of what was said, but because of who was saying it. A woman. And I’ve seen people walk out of churches the moment a woman stepped onto the platform—not because she lacked anointing, but because of a belief that she didn’t belong there.

There are countless women with spiritual gifts—teaching, preaching, discernment, leadership, prophecy—who have been silenced not because of Scripture, but because of tradition or discomfort.

And it breaks my heart.

Because this isn’t about taking over or overpowering. It’s about walking in the fullness of our design. Proverbs 31 paints the picture clearly:

“She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come… she speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue… her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her.” (Proverbs 31:25–28)

This woman is strong. She is dignified. She is wise, industrious, respected, and—yes—she speaks. She is creative and productive, resilient and bold. Her strength is not in rebellion to her role—it’s actually most powerful within it.

The Design Was Always Beautiful

We are not women trying to prove ourselves. We are women made on purpose.

Genesis 2:18 says, “It is not good for man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”

That word—helper—in Hebrew is ezer. It’s the same word used throughout the Old Testament to describe God’s help to His people. And while we, of course, are not the Holy Spirit, the implication is powerful. Women have been given a God-ordained role to stand beside, support, speak truth, and offer discernment in a man’s life, especially within the covenant of marriage.

We are not made to dominate men, nor to disappear behind them. We are called to walk with them, in mutual honor and spiritual purpose. We are a voice of truth, strength, and clarity—meant to sharpen, not silence.

This is not weakness. This is sacred design.

A Culture of Justification and a Counterfeit Strength

But how fascinating—this deep, human impulse to justify ourselves.

“God will forgive me.”

“At least I’m not as bad as them.”

These little lines become counterfeit comforts. They delay the freedom we were meant to walk in and cloud the beauty of who we’re called to be.

Culture whispers that submission is weakness. That honoring men or yielding in marriage is outdated. That to be strong, you must be louder, more independent, or unbothered. But that’s not kingdom strength. That’s self-protection masked as power.

What started as a cry for equality in modern feminism has often morphed into something else: a quiet superiority. A resistance to God’s design. In the name of empowerment, many women have unknowingly exchanged their God-given identity for a cultural counterfeit.

I would argue we have lost the significance of being a godly woman in the effort to reclaim something we think we are missing.

So What Does It Look Like?

To be a woman of God means knowing whose you are before trying to define who you are. When that’s settled, you live differently.

You rise differently.

You submit without losing yourself.

You speak with both boldness and humility.

You honor men without diminishing your worth.

You lead without striving.

You love without manipulation.

You’re whole—not in competition with men, but in co-mission with them.

You know your strength doesn’t come from status or independence. It comes from being rooted in the fear of the Lord—a holy reverence, not terror. A woman who fears the Lord finds security, clarity, and deep peace. That kind of woman walks in authority because she’s surrendered.

Iron Sharpens Iron

You weren’t made to do this alone.

Godly women seek out godly community—people who will sharpen them, challenge them, call them higher. A woman of God doesn’t settle for superficial connection. She longs for iron to sharpen iron, and she knows that marriage, friendship, and ministry all function best when both voices are heard, honored, and refined in truth.

So here’s what I’ve learned:

You can be powerful and still walk in humility.

You can speak boldly and still submit biblically.

You can lead with fire and follow with faith.

You can carry strength within the design—not in spite of it.

That’s what it looks like to be a woman of God.

And I pray we become women who walk in that—fully, freely, and fearfully… in awe of the One who made us.